Where to begin. My grandmother aka "crazy granny" hasn't always been a mean old troll. Even now and then she can be thoughtful, even if there are usually ulterior motives behind it. She is 89 years old and has Alzheimer's. Her alz. has progressed slowly over the years. She has had dementia for roughly 10-15years now. It hasn't been so bad that she has forgotten her family members (until recently and that was just a mix up with her great grand kids. And let's face it there are 4 of them now, it's a lot for hubby and I to keep up with), she just gets confused and her timing is way off. Every 6 months or so her mind will kind of "reset" she will forget everything that has happened, but let me assure you if something excites her she will somehow find a way remember .
She is currently living in an assisted living facility and I am her only living relative other than her 2 nephews and they reside in Fl. That being said, I am the only one around to take care of her. You would think that on a lucid day she would have enough sense to not anger the person that has this power. She calls me multiple times a day and will leave the same exact message, or if I dare answer the phone, tell me the same message and then get upset with me when I tell her I already knew (this being the 4th or 5th time she's called.) And she always starts off with "Melissa, it's granny", to which I always answer "no shit granny!". (She has a very distinctive voice!) She always expects me to react to her request right away. It doesn't matter if I'm at work, at home by myself with the kids, or lying in a gutter somewhere dying. When she beckons, she expects a fast response from me.
And a side note: I should add that she hasn't remebered my birthday in almost 10 years (she remembers my husbands though) and she called me a month ago wanting to go buy me a wedding present (we've been married almost 5 years and she already gave us a wedding present!).
Well today she was supposed to go shopping with my hubby to get my Christmas present. I told her yesterday that it wasn't going to happen today (the only reason she really cared was because they were going out for lunch!) She completely ignored me. I must have told her at least 3 times, he is not going to be able to do it. So of course today at 11:15 (he was schedule to pick her up at 11) she calls me wanting to know where he is. I nicely reminded her that I told her yesterday he was not going to make it. Well that was it. She started yelling and screaming. Called me a Scrooge and asked why I wanted to ruin Christmas for the whole family. I explained that we still had time and would try to resolve this the first of next week. Oh that wasn't good enough if it didn't happen today it was all my fault. Needless to say I hung up on her, several times. I tried to reason with her and she refused to listen, so I'm done......at least for now. I will forgive her because I always do. I know that somewhere in there is the sweet loving granny that used to be around. Every now and then I see a glimmer. I sure do miss her.
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